We human beings have a constant need to control all things – preferably the whole world. Our lives are planned down to the last detail. We wake up in the morning with the unwavering certainty that the world belongs to us, and we fall asleep at night with a similar certainty that we will wake up again the next morning. The beauty of life is often a haphazard series of events that we are unaware of in our daily course. We often don’t have the time and space in our schedules to stop and just be. Sometimes our life becomes more of a race for survival that we hide behind an artificial sense of happiness and joy. But is that real happiness? And what does it really mean to be truly happy?
In all the personality courses we were always told – turn a bad thing into something positive. But how do we transform the immense pain that paralyzes us so that we can hardly breathe again? Pain and love don’t choose to attack us when we least expect it. And so we just stand and wait for the pain to go away because it is the easiest solution at that moment. Perhaps it also sometimes “does us good” to sink with sadomasochistic satisfaction into a deep sense of unhappiness and injustice. Whether the feeling of unhappiness or injustice stems from deep love, illness, or abandonment, we dive deep into learned patterns of behavior and thought because they are familiar to us and give us a sense of false security. “I know that place, I’ve been there many times.”
What if, just once, we tried to forget all our previous pains and failed attempts to escape the situation, accept them, whatever they may be, and surrender. Surrendered all the worries, heartbreaks and other pains, believing that the invisible arms waiting before us would carry them away. Just like that. Here and now.
Let’s imagine ourselves for a moment as our best friend, looked at with a gaze full of love and kindness. What advice would we give ourselves? Maybe we’d move closer to each other, stroke each other’s hair or cheek and whisper softly, “Don’t worry, it will all pass soon.” Because, yes, it will pass. Our life is limited by time, and the quality of our experience of it is determined only by ourselves – no one else. We alone are its creators and destroyers. We can prepare wonderful moments, but also unnecessary pain. We have the opportunity to destroy all that is good, but we also have the opportunity to destroy that which no longer serves us.
You may argue that our lives are influenced by a number of uncontrollable factors – yes, but we are the ones who shape them into what they can only be. Our inner power creates the future through the present and does not attach itself to the past. What can make us unconditionally happy beings is finding our own source – the power that lies deep within each of us. Everyone of us has this inner source, it just takes patience to look for it and the courage to see the good, as well as the bad, that lies within us. Partial solitude, immersion in ourselves, the practice of physical yoga or meditation practice, being in nature and love can help us to find our own source. In these situations we get closer to ourselves, to our inner space. The longer we stay within ourselves, the more we become aware of the beauty of our inner world and become stronger and more receptive to ourselves, to our lives and to the whole world. Our inner strength slowly grows and gives us the courage to let go and let go of what no longer serves us. Because when we let go of what no longer makes us happy, we make room for something new, sometimes much more beautiful. So let’s not be afraid to let go, just once.